If you have read ‘a farthing Cone’ you will know my mother was an only child and my father had one unmarried brother. However, when I was growing up we always had aunties to spare. These stand-in relatives were friends of my parents but we always called them auntie. My own girls had some aunties along the way. At Myrtleford there was Auntie Bev and Grandma Rouse, a mother and daughter who were very special to us and the girls. In Red Cliffs there was Auntie Glad who loved to knit, if I supplied the wool she would knit endlessly. Doug and I shared the baby sitting between us but these aunties were stand in mothers to my girls when he and I were was compelled to be out of town together. They loved my girls and mothered them as if they were their own, for which we were, and are so grateful.
Yvette went to a P.D.* on Aboriginal Art the other day and the lecturer explained that it was their culture for the aunties of the tribe to mother all the children in the tribe, not just their own brood. What a wonderful picture it paints, children with lots of mothers, loving them, looking out for them and caring for them. If you have read ‘six chocolate coated icecreams’ you will know that Doug grew up without a mum but at the age of 11 or 12 he met his great Aunt Lillian. She just reached out in love and hugged him and he could tell that she would love him from the moment she spoke.
So! What is all the point about this musing? We were a satellite family before the term was invented. I wonder today with all the geographical distance between families, fractured families and single parent families, are there still aunties around to be a support mother for the children? Many years back I read that a child needs a meaningful relationship with at least five adults to grow up well adjusted. Jesus said that we should love others as much as He loves us. (John13:34) All I can say is, stay connected or get connected, Be an auntie (or uncle) who makes a difference.
(I would love you to comment on this blog, to know if you had or have some special aunties in your family or your opinion on the subject.) *PD Personal Development
Yvette, Fiona, Meredith and Anita wearing jumpers knitted by Auntie Glad – Launceston 1974